Ask Al

Welcome back to This New House. I'm Al Borland and it's that time for the Ask Al segment you've all waited for. Well that might be a bit stretch, but whatever. Our question of the day comes from Drunk Mike in PG County. Mike asks "Al have you ever noticed friends you thought were close just start to fall off the face of the earth?"

Mike I've definitely seen it, and well I've probably done it to people as well. As we all get older and mature, the core around you gets more defined. People who you thought were close to you just drop off the face and you don't even know why. Mostly its the out of sight out of mind mentality that happens. We are all guilty of it at some point, there just comes a time when you really notice it. It stings because you see the people off getting married, having kids, etc and you hate to have to find out thanks to someones post on facebook about what happened. All I can say is make the best out of the close relationships you have, make sure that if you want them to stand up that you put your effort into them, or else they will go away just like the rest of them. Don't take it personally, you just have to realize that people just do it and it will happen. Another thing is you will really find out who your closest friends are when something awful happens. If you lose a loved one, those that were close to you will be there for you regardless. Also, people that know you and actually give a damn will say something to you. Whether its at the time, or if you happen to run into them on the street almost a year later. That's where you should focus your energy.